SELF DEVELOPMENT TIPS
Is a problem still a problem, if you don’t know you have it?
Absolutely! Ignorance is not bliss! Ignorance can get you killed, maimed, broke, divorced, out of work, out of luck, and out of chances!
The smart thing is to get over being ignorant of any problems you don’t even know you might have, and get some self development tips.
How do I know I have a problem?
How’s life? Any areas you want to work better? There you go, found some straight away! Wasn’t hard at all. Now, how to go about making them better. This is where those self development tips come in!
WHY SELF DEVELOPMENT TIPS?
Why not just hire someone to fix the problem? That would be good if it was a plumbing problem, where you can call in someone trained in fixing plumbing problems. However, if the issue is closer to home, such as within YOU, then who better to look to for answers than the person who lives there with the issues?
It’s not hard to work out what the problems are, but it can be tricky working out the answers, and often, we don’t know them. If we did, we’d probably try to or already have the problem solved with the answers. However, the real problem is that most people don’t know how to ask for what they want! And the super major problem with that is that they don’t realise they don’t know how to ask for what they want!
SELF DEVELOPMENT TIPS 1: How to ask for what you want!
This is a big issue, so we’ll devote a little time to it. The formula here applies to everything in life, so it’s worth taking notes. There are 5 steps in Self Development tips 1:
Step 1: Know what you want! Sounds simple, but how many times have you been asked, and been unable to immediately answer? Before you start asking for anything, be really clear on what it is you want, or want help with. Clarity leads to power, so get clarity first. That may mean writing it out, mind mapping it or talking it over with a friend who can play devil’s advocate, but get clear on exactly what you want!
Step 2: Know who to ask! Again, sounds simple, but why do so many people get it wrong? Sure, the taxi driver may have a sound opinion on it, and may even be right, but is he the guy to ask? Is your brother-in-law the guy to ask? Possibly not.
How do you know who to ask? Look at their results. Look at what their profession is. If it’s relevant to your question, see if they are getting results in it. Look around for people who already have the answers to the question you want answered. But before you ask, make sure you are asking someone who actually can help you!
That’s not to say that family and friends are not the right people to ask, nor should you shun the taxi driver. Get a range of opinions and rationally sift through them, educate yourself so that you are qualified to analyse the answers and make your decisions and choices.
Step 3: Be in exchange! You want a pizza? $10.00 please! You want the answer to a life changing question or problem? What is it worth to you? What will someone charge you to provide it? There needs to be an exchange of some sort.
If it was simply information, you might Google it for free. But experience? That comes from a mentor, someone who has been there. That will cost a little more. You need to be clear in advance what it is worth to you to get what you want, what you are asking for, and whether you can afford to pay for it!